Not Getting Your Way?
Today in my newsletter, I have decided to talk about how people respond when they do not get their way. When raising children, many experience temper tantrums when their kids are young. Children’s response is not always ideal, but often times can display anger when they do not get their way. Most children know when they misbehave there will usually be consequences for their actions. In addition, many parent’s goals are to generally teach their kids how to respect others and to recognize that life is not always about getting what we want, but rather about compromise. Likewise, parents typically want their children to know there is a way to address issues without being disobedient. Similarly, some parents lead kids to focus on the significance of character and integrity because the parents generally want them to represent themselves, their family and God well. In the same way, sadly, adults can respond to not getting their way in a less than ideal manner. Whether this is in the work place or at home, often time’s conversations can lead adults to speak in anger. Many people usually speak or act out without thinking. In return, these actions can produce consequences as well as change the trajectory of their relationships. So, where do the majority of people fall? If most are honest, they would probably say they have failed at one time or another. However, this does not have to be the case! Therefore, remember the next time that a feeling of frustration rears up, and a conversation brings opposition, please try these simple concepts: pause before answering, consider other people’s point of view and stay calm. In addition, those who are engaged in these conversations must try to communicate the best way possible while maintaining their integrity and remember to address others with respect. By implementing these concepts, the idea will make all the difference when trying to find a solution to the problem. Furthermore, that is why it is critical that we speak in love, be the example, represent well and stand tall knowing that the conflict does not define us, but the heavenly Father does.
Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children.
Ephesians 5:1
Chaplain Tracey Burns
Reflection Questions
1. How do you typically respond to opposition?
2. When you depart from a contentious conversation, would you say that you represented well?
3. What areas do you struggle with when engaging in opposition-anger, insecurity, or fear?
Bonus: Great song (if you are interested) when you are frustrated will you act on your emotions or will you be an “Overcomer”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8VoUYtx0kw&ab_channel=MandisaVEVO